There Are Better Ways
There Are Better Ways
We know many things about what can make any goal safe to discuss in therapy


Healthy Therapy Is

Client Driven

A good therapist should never push a client in any direction. In response to the client's statement "I feel like I'm gay" the ethical therapist should say "Tell me more about that."

Never Coercive

Clients should not be forced into therapy by anyone. Therapy cannot be effective without the full cooperation of the client.

Not Abusive or Aversive

Therapy should help reduce shame, not increase it. It should encourage self-compassion, and should not artifically limit possibilities in approaches to sexuality and gender.

Supportive of the client's values

Not all clients place sexuality at the top of their value system. Therapy should support the client in his or her value system and should not push the client into actions that go against their moral code.

"Seeking insight from a professional counselor is a sign of strength and humility. If a person chooses to seek such help, others should respect his or her right to determine the desired outcomes."

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

Principles of Safe Therapy


The client, not the therapist, determines the goal of therapy

The client's faith and value system is often as important to them and as much a part of them as their sexuality, or even more so. As such, good therapy seeks to support the client in all their goals.

Discussions about sexuality and gender should never push a client to change their faith or value system, but should support their client in their goals. They should allow exploration of all potential paths for expressing and interpreting sexuality and gender.

Avoid Harm

The therapist should avoid techniques known to cause harm

Having any particular goal of therapy is not, in and of itself, harmful. Therapy becomes harmful when it assumes change will or must occur, denigrates the quality of a client's preferred life path regarding sexuality or gender, or limits the ability of a client to explore all possibilities.

Good therapy helps the client develop a positive self image, fosters emotional, psychological, and intellectual development, and asserts the individual's right to determine their own standards.


Additional Resources

The Reconciliation and Growth Project

The project has a detailed list of specific harmful practices and guidelines for healthy therapy.

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